I have to say that I think we're all in the same boat. We all despise the word. I grew up with that word, but I never use it anymore. However, I was walking out of a Down Syndrome Association of Atlanta board meeting (I'm on the board & I'm a parent) and I dropped the word myself. I was mortified that I actually used that word and not only that, but with fellow parents of children with Down Syndrome. I was so ashamed that it even came out of my mouth. We are human and we must forget the past and push forth to work on eradicating the word!
So do you have twin babies that both have DS? How rare! You are so lucky!